Sunday, March 27, 2011

How Not to Invite a Single or Divorced Person for Pesach

Here's what you don't say:

  • Do you need a Seder?
  • Do you need a meal for YomTov? 
  • Which meals don't you have an invitation for?
  • You can come for the first seder. Do you know who else needs a place for that night?

All of these things were said to me by well-meaning hosts and hostesses in the past.

Here's what you do say.

  • Would you like to join us for the first seder?
  • Would you like to join us for 2nd day lunch?
  • Would you like to join us for any of the YomTov lunches, like any of the last days?  You're welcome to bring a friend as well.

Remember, single people don't "need" meals, and if they do, it's rude to remind them of how much you have and how much they don't.  As a former "older single" as well as a former divorcee, I can assure you that these words do hurt.  Have a little sensitivity this YomTov, fill your tables with people who are currently alone, and treat them with sensitivity and respect.

(Getting off my soapbox now.)

Chag kasher v'sameach.