Sunday, January 6, 2008

And Speaking of Hooking Up.....

Now, I've truly seen everything. Everything.

There is a Facebook group entitled "Tefillin Date." I know what you're thinking. You're thinking that it's a joke right? It's not.

Tefillin date
Common Interest - Sexuality
A tefillin date is one in which the boy brings his tefillin along to the restaurant so if he ends up spending the night with the shaina maidel he won't chos vesholom miss Shachris in the morning before work or college.

Who needs jdate?! Forget Futuresimchas! This is the best casual dating site for the frum community!

How it works is if you would like to meet someone for a teffilin date, post a note on our page telling a bit about yourself (age, height, weight, level of frumkeit etc...) and mention what kind of person you're looking for and other members interested can contact you. Also if you see a post you like from another member feel free to write to them.

If you don't like this group or don't recognise it's right to exist, DO NOT LOOK! This group is for Frum, heimishe adults who are looking to hook up and if you don't like that this is not the group for you. Save us and yourself the time and don't bother spewing religious rhetoric. That is not what this group is about and you have no outlet here for your stupidity. ALL SUSPICIOUS COMMENTS WILL BE DELETED!!

Brocho vehatzlocho!

Of course, I trolled through the (322!) member list out of pure nosiness, and while there were plenty Ploni Almoni names, there were many more real ones. I recognized someone I dated from Frumster (who did not bring his Tefillin along), two guys I knew when I was single, and (gulp) the daughter of a former teacher.

Ok, before you nominate me for Orthodox Prude of the Year, let me explain. It's not so much that I don't know that Tefillin Dates happen and apparently, happen often. It's that Tefillin Daters are now a Community, with a Capital Cee. There is no longer any shame or secrecy attached to Tefillin Dating. This strikes me as a sociological wonder. I know that many frum single and divorced people are openly not Shomer Negiah, but there used to be a mighty ginormous hurdle between giving up a little sugar and doing the deed. Apparently not any more. It is no longer embarrassing to be frum and hooking up.

Brave New Frum World.

I have to say, I'm not really in favor of this level of openness. There is something surreal about it.

You know, I just don't know what to think.


frum single female said...

i think that people think that this facebook group is quite sad. whatever one does on one's own time is one's own business, but to put things out there so openly is quite another. i think that people have become much more bold on the internet reqarding these types of things because they think its less open than it really is. or maybe im giving them too much credit.

abandoning eden said...

like most facebook groups, i'm sure this is a joke. even if it's not a joke, i'm sure the majority of people who joined did so as a joke. :)

Look at the comments. Are there any people actually posting the info they say to post?

הצעיר שלמה בן רפאל לבית שריקי ס"ט said...

whoah, I diddn't know about that before, thanks for the hookup! Now me and Maieesha got orselves a date tonight! And we won't be meeting in a resteraunt (if you know what I mean)!

No, I'm not really sirious. But I'm sure not all the girls other there just want to have sex. It seems to me it's just a little less marige minded, then say; frumster..

(and I also saw some unlikely friends there...I gotta keep my anonimity)!

WebGirl said...

Not sure how serious or how not-too-serious this group is. Not all FB groups are a joke, though many are. I didn't see any hook-up posts, though there are quite a few that link to "frum porn" that I'm really sorry I clicked on. This stuff is really one step below the scum that sticks to the bottom of the barrel. Who would sign up to a group like this even as a joke? It's just messed up and quite uchy.

Anonymous said...

See here re tefillin date:

Anonymous said...

"There is no longer any shame or secrecy attached to Tefillin Dating"

Well, there never was any shame or secrecy from people like you presuming to live our lives for us. Relax, you'll get over it.